Getting Sidetracked From Setting Boundaries: Talking Trust

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I was getting ready to write a post about love and setting boundaries. (Stay tuned–this very important post may make it up next week.) I was looking for this quote I remember: Love knows no boundaries, or something like that, but couldn’t find it. (BTW, do you know it? If so, PLEASE put it in the comments or a link to it. I will be eternally grateful.) I was going to write the post anyway, but then I came upon this new quote, which I had never heard before. However, it is now my new favorite:

If you succeed in cheating someone, don’t think that person a fool. . .Realize that person trusted you much more than you deserved.


Why do I love this quote so much?

First, it actually makes the cheater/liar/thief the one that is responsible for their actions. It is a MUCH better quote than: “Fool me once, shame on you.  Fool me twice, shame on me.” I mean: what if the second time you were fooled was because you forgave the person the first time?

Second, it gives props to people who TRUST. I think trusting people are often put down in today’s society–in books, in movies, and in real life. But what is wrong with trusting? If you find the right person or people to trust, then you can have wonderful relationships that will only enrich your life. These don’t have to be romantic–they can be with family members, friends, co-workers, siblings and even your own children.

I am a truster. I trust people to a fault most likely; and when I think about it, these themes are making it into my books. In Finding My Place, 13-year-old Anna trusts that her neighbors will help her and have her best interest at heart. She is wrong, and she finally stands up for herself, but she does trust them for a while. In Caught Between Two Curses, a teen contemporary novel, 17-year-old Julie forgives her boyfriend, Gus, and trusts that he is being faithful to her. I won’t tell you if he is or isn’t. But let’s just say that quote above REALLY pertains to him.

So what do you think? Do you think the person who trusts is the fool or do you think it is true that the cheater/liar is the one who doesn’t deserve the trust and is at fault?

Margo Dill (427x640)Margo Dill, also known as the Sandwich Lady because she has a 4-year-old daughter and 70-something-year-old parents, is the author of three books: Caught Between Two Curses (YA), Finding My Place: One Girl’s Strength at Vicksburg (MG), and Maggie Mae, Detective Extraordinaire: The Case of the Missing Cookies. These are available at all major retailers!  Find out more about Margo’s books, speaking, and teaching at




  • Isnt that love quote from the Corrinthians verse everyone uses for weddings and such? You know, “love is patient, love is kind…” Right?

    • Well, I’m not sure if that’s the one I’m thinking about or not. It is going to be hard to find it if I don’t even know when I find it! HA!

So, what do you think?