Stress Busters for Moms and Writers: Spirit

DSC00994In this series I’ve covered ways to deal with stress in your  body and mind, so this week we’ll finish up with de-stressing your spiritual side. It doesn’t really matter what your religious background is or even if you have a religion at all. We, as humans, have a spirit/soul/something that makes us more than just biological tissues with a brain. If you don’t feed your soul, all kinds of nasty emotions surface and the result is an unhappy person. So here are some ways to reconnect with the inner you.

Spirit Lady’s Top Tips for a Healthy Mind

  1. Find your passion. Oprah would say that we should ultimately choose a job that we’re passionate about, but not all of us have the luxury of doing that exact thing right now. For example, I’m passionate about writing, but I’m currently a SAHM and spend most of my day caring for my two kids, housekeeping, and making meals. But! I schedule a one hour window before the baby wakes up to dedicate to writing tasks. If I don’t take the time for myself, I become one crabby mama.
  2. Connect to something greater. Pray or go to church. Meditate. Hug a tree. I don’t care what you do as long as you’re pondering the vastness of our universe. Now I can hear you groaning, “Ugh! Meditation is really hard,” so I’ll let you in on a little secret. I don’t just sit and meditate. Gasp! I can’t because my kids are running around and I can’t just leave the baby unsupervised. However, I can follow along with a guided meditation in the car, then if I get distracted, I just come back to the person’s voice. Dr. Doreen Virtue is one of my favorites. Or I listen to meditation music while I write or take a walk.
  3. FREEDOM! Remember when you were a kid and you had absolutely no responsibilities and you could play outside with the neighbor kids for hours? Give yourself a window of freedom in your schedule where you can do anything. Or nothing. I love to watch TV, read, or go for walks during my free time.
  4. Deal with burnout. We’ve all experienced it, but just ignoring burnout will make things much worse. Burnout happens to me sometimes as a mom, because I’m just so tired of feeling like Cinderella and the Little Old Woman in the Shoe combined. And–ha!–I only have two kids. So here’s how I deal. First of all, embrace the crashing and burning phase where you feel absolutely awful, need to talk it out, scream, cry, whatever. We are humans and must deal with emotion, so give yourself a full day for a pity party. Then change it up. Make your life different even if it’s in a small way. Enroll in a funk dance class, try a new route to work or the grocery store, or rearrange your furniture.

With spring finally arriving (thank God), I hope we can all put our winter blues aside for several months. Hope you enjoyed this series on eliminating stress from your life.

You can find the stress busters for body here.

And the stress busters for mind here.

I’m Spirit Lady. Enjoy the journey :)

 


Camille Faye | Author

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6 Comments

  • I love this post! I need to do all of these things! Thanks for sharing, it was exactly what I needed to hear today.

    • Glad I could help :) Baby Girl hasn’t been sleeping well, so I have needed these stress-busting tools most definitely!

  • Wow I don’t know which one of these fantastic suggests to comment to first. I needed to read them all. For me, connecting to something greater (for me, that is God) is crucial. Thank you.

    • Yes, Julie. I always feel so much better if I take that time. Church offers us such a good community and an ability to consider BIG spiritual ideas, but I also just love walking and appreciating nature. Feels so relaxing. Ahhhhh :)

  • Camille: You are so wise and I can’t wait to see you in a couple weeks. ANd you are so honest. I love being a mom. I know my life would be not the same without my KB, and when I’m away from her, I can’t wait to see her again. But somedays, goodness, the responsibility is overwhelming and I only have one with me all the time. My stepson is here a lot in the summer, but when he’s here, it’s actually like you mentioned changing up the routine, so I can only say ONE usually overwhelms me. I stop every day and take a deep breath and say: What is really important in life? Do I need to get A B C done right now if I’m feeling like this? I think it’s hard at our house because my husband leaves at noon and doesn’t get home until 10:30 pm most days. And this past week he was out of town. So, one day after nap to change things up, we had an outing because 4 to 7 is the worst witching hour .We went to a children’s museum, ate dinner out and then went to the gym, where we can both do our own thing (She has a playroom there for free!) It was just nice to change things up. Okay, this is about to be longer than your post, but I loved this!

    • I hear you, Spirit Lady. It’s weird when my parents take the kids…I’ll tiptoe around the house thinking they are taking a nap and then I realize, “Oh! I can be as loud as I want to be.” That’s a good tip with thinking about “What is important in life?” You’re right. If you just get stuck in all your to-do lists, you’ll completely miss your LIFE. And I hate the idea of not really being present to see and experience my kids growing up. Actually, I really want to talk with you about balancing work and home life, so I’m so excited to come stay with you in a couple of weeks. Talk to you soon :)

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