The Truth About Princesses


My daughter dressed as Belle

Here at my house, we are princess crazy. As a matter of fact while I ‘m typing this blog post, my daughter is happily watching Frozen with her grandparents. Some people don’t approve of how princess crazy little girls are. They wonder if we are sending our girls the right message. Will our daughters grow up to expect riches and happily ever after? What happens when little girls become teenagers and there’s no Prince Charming?

Phooey, I say.

What’s wrong with princesses?

Before I had a girl who was princess crazy, I thought the same kind of stuff. And maybe it’s because of these new princesses–both fiction and real life–that I say, “I”m glad my daughter loves princesses.” Let’s take for example: Anna from Frozen, Merida from Brave, and everyone’s real favorite princess-Kate of Wales.

  • In Frozen, Anna proves what True Love is all about–and it’s not true love for the weird dude with the reindeer either that saves the village or herself from being frozen forever. It’s the love she shows for her sister, Elsa, that breaks the spell and causes a happy ending. I think that’s a lesson I would love my daughter to learn–love for your siblings/family is a special kind of love that you are lucky to have! (Plus, Anna is super sweet and kind, as most princesses are, and those are qualities I would also like my daughter to have.)
  • Merida–she is the example of what I want my daughter to be–red curly hair and all. She does not want to marry someone just because he is a prince, and she is athletic, smart, and . . .brave! Plus, the way she turns her mother into a bear when they aren’t getting along rivals any relationship between a real life teenager and her mother. How many teens (including myself) have wanted to change our mothers into a bear?
  • Kate of Wales–What can I say? I’m a Kate and William fan. I watched the wedding  and the Lifetime movie. I respect how she tries to do what is right and proper as part of her royal responsibility, but she still took that baby home to her parents when she had him, and she likes to do her own grocery shopping. I would love my daughter to realize that no matter how important the world thinks you are, family is still there for you, and you have to put food on the table for yours!

Tea with Cinderella

Recently, we went to a tea with Cinderella at The Magic House, a local children’s museum. You should have seen the number of little girls there dressed as every princess from Cinderella to Elsa, including Belle, Merida, and Rapunzel. I think this is wonderful. The joy in the little girls’ faces as they sat with their families and drank juice out of tea cups and watched Cinderella sing was priceless. The truth about princess–they are one of the good things in life.

Whether you are a twelve-year-old princess or a twelve-year-old regular kid, you need to know you are loved and respected.
~Kathryn Lasky
Author of The Royal Diaries


  • My three-year old granddaughter is princess crazy, too. She has a closet full of princess dresses, two of which I bought for her. But she also loves climbing, running, jumping and can go toe-to-toe with you on assertiveness. She is also car crazy. She feels every bit the princess inside without seeing any conflict of interest in doing anything else she wants. She knows she is loved, respected, and can do anything in the world she wants. And if she wants to dress like a princess while she climbs a jungle gym is perfectly okay with me, her parents and five aunts and uncles. And let’s not forget that princesses grow up to be queens. And queens can run countries.

    • These are my thoughts exactly, Holly. So glad we share the same opinion. :) Thanks for stopping by and sharing what’s going on with your little princess.

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  • Interestingly, my daughter (who is 18) and I just had a conversation about the whole princess theme of Disney. She commented that the new style of princess is this head-strong, independent type who doesn’t need no “stankin'” prince. In their independence, they’ve become a bit more snarky and smart-mouth too. (Is this how we express independence?). Although there is merit to the independent woman-princess theme, we both thought it was quite fine to express our softer side too and to still dream of a prince.

    • I do think that in Frozen, as an example, you have both because in the end, Anna does love Kristoff and shows him her softer side. It’s a fine balance. Another good example is Tianna in the Princess and the Frog. She wants to open her own restaurant and she does, even after she turns into a princess and marries the prince. So maybe she’s the best example–you can have true love and a career, too, even if you are a princess. :)

So, what do you think?