Mothers worry. I guess fathers do, too, but it’s a different kind of worry. I think my husband would not have worried about anything to do with our daughter during her first year of life, unless I told him to. I would say things like, “We need to worry about this. We need to discuss this. We need to figure this out.” His usual response was: “I don’t remember any of this with my son.” So helpful!
Here are the top TEN things I worried about before my daughter was one-year-old:
1. Will she take her naps?
2. Should I sleep train?
3. Will teething last forever? How do I stop the crying?
4. When should I start solid food? Will she eat everything?
5. When should I stop nursing? Can I make it to a year?
6. Should I be doing the baby massage?
7.Am I doing the baby massage correctly?
8. Am I reading to her enough?
9. Is she doing enough tummy time?
10. When should I buy her a pair of shoes and what kind and where?
Now my daughter is three, so I’m here to tell you mothers of one-year-olds and younger, I worried about all of this stuff FOR NO REASON. Good Lord, I can’t believe these are the things I worried about. I mean, yes, nursing is important. Yes, sleeping is wonderful, and no one likes a fussy, teething baby, including the baby herself.
But let’s just take number one for example, my child still naps most days. We never really did sleep training, but we worked it out, and she sleeps fine. Teething does not last forever–toddlers find something else to be whiny and grumpy about–don’t worry.
Nurse as long as you can if you are able. I made it to 8.5 months. I have a very healthy 3-year-old (knock on wood). Baby massage–don’t get me started. That could be a blog post by itself. And I’m embarrassed that numbers 8, 9, and 10 were a topic of MANY CONVERSATIONS between myself, my parents, my husband, and my friends–especially number 10. Guess what? I figured out what shoes to buy. The child can’t get enough books now, and thank goodness, she crawled and walked just fine–WITHOUT having a flat head from not enough tummy time.
It’s a parents’ job to worry, but I wish I wouldn’t have worried about ANY OF THIS STUFF when she was a baby. And this is just my top ten. . .I wish what I would have worried more about was loving her, singing every day, enjoying every precious moment–that’s the important stuff to worry about.
Okay–that and if you can get the spit-up spots out of your baby’s clothing, so you can re-sell it at the second-hand store.
I would love to see what you worried about with your kids! OR what you are worrying about now!