Top Ten Things I Worried About as The Mother of An Infant

KB reading at 3!

KB reading at 3!

Mothers worry. I guess fathers do, too, but it’s a different kind of worry. I think my husband would not have worried about anything to do with our daughter during her first year of life, unless I told him to. I would say things like, “We need to worry about this. We need to discuss this. We need to figure this out.” His usual response was: “I don’t remember any of this with my son.” So helpful!

Here are the top TEN things I worried about before my daughter was one-year-old:

1. Will she take her naps?

2. Should I sleep train?

3. Will teething last forever? How do I stop the crying?

4. When should I start solid food? Will she eat everything?

5. When should I stop nursing? Can I make it to a year?

6. Should I be doing the baby massage?

7.Am I doing the baby massage correctly?

8. Am I reading to her enough?

9. Is she doing enough tummy time?

10. When should I buy her a pair of shoes and what kind and where?

Now my daughter is three, so I’m here to tell you mothers of one-year-olds and younger, I worried about all of this stuff FOR NO REASON. Good Lord, I can’t believe these are the things I worried about. I mean, yes, nursing is important. Yes, sleeping is wonderful, and no one likes a fussy, teething baby, including the baby herself.

But let’s just take number one for example, my child still naps most days. We never really did sleep training, but we worked it out, and she sleeps fine. Teething does not last forever–toddlers find something else to be whiny and grumpy about–don’t worry.

Nurse as long as you can if you are able. I made it to 8.5 months. I have a very healthy 3-year-old (knock on wood). Baby massage–don’t get me started. That could be a blog post by itself. And I’m embarrassed that numbers 8, 9, and 10 were a topic of MANY CONVERSATIONS between myself, my parents, my husband, and my friends–especially number 10. Guess what? I figured out what shoes to buy. The child can’t get enough books now, and thank goodness, she crawled and walked just fine–WITHOUT having a flat head from not enough tummy time.

It’s a parents’ job to worry, but I wish I wouldn’t have worried about ANY OF THIS STUFF when she was a baby. And this is just my top ten. . .I wish what I would have worried more about was loving her, singing every day, enjoying every precious moment–that’s the important stuff to worry about.

Okay–that and if you can get the spit-up spots out of your baby’s clothing, so you can re-sell it at the second-hand store.

I would love to see what you worried about with your kids! OR what you are worrying about now!




  • I love this post! I too worried about those things. I also worried because our little one had bowed legs.. yeah they straitened out. . no issues. We mom’s can’t help but worry. Now I have a 16yr old…… more worries than I can list!!

    • Yes, teenagers are a whole other ballgame. :)

  • My kids survived babyhood and childhood (I honestly had NO idea what I was doing when the first one came along. I think I babysat maybe three times in my entire life. I’d never actually held a baby.) My three are 22, 26 and 28 now–and trust me when I tell you that you do NOT want to know about the sort of things I worry about with twenty-somethings. (Who are going to do what they’re going to do, whether I worry or not!) :-)

    • Yes, just like Busy Lady, teenagers and twenty-something have many different issues to worry about. . .;)

  • Potty training was a big one, back when my kids were young. It seemed our mothers were all convinced back then (in the ’80s) that their grandchildren should be completely potty trained at 18 months. Ridiculous. And everybody was worried about whose kid was crawling sooner, walking sooner, talking sooner, etc. Mommyhood was very competitive (maybe it still is; I have no idea). I had a couple of late bloomers, so it could really get discouraging when other mommies were always pointing that out. Finally, a friend and I settled on what we called the “five-year rule.” Since our pediatricians had assured us our kids had no obviously delays, we figured that all of our kids would be walking, talking, and sleeping through the night by age five, even if they weren’t the first on their block to do it. It took a lot of pressure off when another mom started bragging about how early her kid walked or said her first word. My friend and I would simply hold up our hand and say, “Yes, by the time our children are in kindergarten, they will all be doing that.”

    • Oh, it’s still like that! It’s competitive–I think it’s worse now. OH Potty training–the only way I’m getting through that now is by thinking: I worried about all this other stuff when she was younger and it’s fine now, so. . .potty training will be the same–right? :)

    • Plus now there’s the Internet, so all that information and competitiveness got amped up. With the second one I don’t even think about that stuff. My main thing is…mommy needs sleep. I wish I did better on less sleep, but I’ve just never been a 5-6 hour a night gal.

      • Completely agree that the Internet is often NOT OUR FRIEND!

  • Great post. I worried that my son would not learn to read. So much so that I went out and purchased one of those help your baby to read kids. I had all these cards with names of items in bright red letters taped to their objects. Chair, table, lamp – good grief. They were everywhere! I finally took them down and he reads just fine. Then I worried he would never find his best potential because I might miss presenting him with that very one opportunity. I had that kid in more stuff than there are books in a library. What was really crazy about that is I still might missed that very one opportunity. But he’s nearly 30, now. He can find it himself. LOL

    • Holly: THanks for sharing. I’m a little like that with activities. I want her to find what she likes, and have been enrolling her in gymnastics since she was 10 months old. :) I am thinking about soccer now and she’s 3. :) But she loves playing ball, so . .. :) Yes, you are right. Once they are 30, they can figure it out themselves.

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